After rereading the blog I wrote three years ago about manifesting my dream man, I decided to do it again. Time to freshen up ye old list and come at it from a different perspective. Why has it taken me three years to do this again?
Well, I ‘de-centered men’ for the last few years to live a nomadic lifestyle. I went to Barbados, Mexico, Turks and Caicos, and now I have been living in Lisbon, Portugal for the last 18 months.
I have done enough casual dating to last a lifetime. I feel like I have dated every single nationality. I have done the research. Now I know what I am looking for. I am ‘manifesting’ differently this time.
It’s not, what am I looking for? but more of,
How do I show up in this relationship?
Is my partner bringing out the best in me?
The only way you can truly manifest something into your life is by feeling like you already have it.
I need to feel like I am already in this relationship… how does it make me feel?
Supported. Nourished. Taken care of. Secure. Excited. Sexy. Romantic. Playful. Adventurous.
I need to be much more specific about my desires because being wishy washy gave me wishy washy results.
So here it goes…this is my future partner.
His steadiness and calm demeanour soothe my soul.
I can rest my head on his chest and he feels like home.
He has it covered. He knows what to do.
A quiet confidence.
Rest assured, he has got you.
His eyes dilate, taking me all in.
When he has a good idea, he wears a mischievous grin.
He thinks I am funny and we have deep talks.
blah blah blah we like to go on walks.
Okay that just turned into a poem.
Sometimes you just gotta let it flow…but in all seriousness: it’s correct.
NON NEGOTIABLES:
be a communicator
have provider masculine energy, financially responsible
must not be angry or jaded, cup half full please
must PLAY sports, not just watch them
must enjoy my sense of humour, have good banter
must entertain my love for aliens and astrology
he makes me feel loved and appreciated
BONUS:
he cooks (I can cook but I really don’t love it)
he surfs, so he can take me with him
he hates the Red Hot Chili Peppers
How I show up in this relationship: I bring my light and playful energy to our dynamic. I feel supported, so my creativity flows naturally. He loves my crazy business ideas and funds them. Our date nights are always special because we can easily enjoy the moment, we are best friends. He loves spoiling me because he gets spoiled in other ways…teehee.
He inspires me to follow my dreams and he supports my drive and ambition. I, in turn, support and motivate him to do the same. We want what’s best for each other, it is a deep fulfilling love.
Now I am going to say a word that has been bastardized and it is: alpha man. I want an alpha man.
Gross. Listen, I know. I hate that I just said that too.
But if it were the end of the world and there is some kinda zombie apocalypse I want the Brad Pitt in World War Z. I want the Pedro Pascal in The Last of Us. I want a man that can lead but also trusts me and my intuition.
I have challenged myself to go on 40 first dates to find the one. I have already gone on two first dates, both with very different men. I am starting to realize that I need to be more specific for the sake of my own time management. I said I would date outside of ‘my type’, but if I do that, then they better be able to protect me at the end of days.
Alright universe, let’s work on this together.